What About Assertiveness Training?

It's true that angry people need to learn to become assertive (rather than aggressive), but most books and courses on developing assertiveness are aimed at people who don't feel enough anger. These people are more passive and acquiescent than the average person; they tend to let others walk all over them. That isn't something that most angry people do. Still, these books can contain some useful tactics to use in frustrating situations.

Remember, you can't eliminate anger—and it wouldn't be a good idea if you could. In spite of all your efforts, things will happen that will cause you anger; and sometimes it will be justifiable anger. Life will be filled with frustration, pain, loss, and the unpredictable actions of others. You can't change that; but you can change the way you let such events affect you and how you respond to the events. Find out more about the Real Solution Assertiveness Workbook.

Additional Reading

Pfeiffer MDiv, PhD,RH Creating Real Relationships: Overcoming the Power of Difference and Shame ISBN: 1893505138 212 pp. (Hardcover only) Growth Publishing NY. Highly acclaimed book dealing with underlying issues of self-esteem (shame). Offers skills and concepts to resolve conflicts and to overcome anger problems. It is most effective for those who are fully aware of their need to find help for their relationship problems.