Relationship Conflict Skills and Concepts
Do You Need an Relationship Program?
If you feel that your relationship is getting out of control, if it is having an impact on other important parts of your life, you might consider a Relationship Program or Anger Control Program to learn how to handle it better. A highly trained licensed psychotherapist can work with you in developing a range of techniques for changing thinking and behavior.
When you talk to a prospective therapist, tell her or him that you have problems with your relationship, and ask about his or her approach to relationship problems. Make sure this isn't only a course of action designed to "put you in touch with your feelings and express them"—that may be precisely what your problem is.
With a good Relationship Program a couple can move closer to a lower range of anger in about 12 weeks, depending on the circumstances and the techniques used.
If you believe you have relationship problem, it's important you realize that you are not alone. You may want to arrange for a consultation with a professional at growth@growthgroups.com
What About Assertiveness Training?
It's true that angry people need to learn to become assertive (rather than aggressive), but most books and courses on developing assertiveness are aimed at people who don't feel enough anger. These people are more passive and acquiescent than the average person; they tend to let others walk all over them. That isn't something that most angry people do. Still, these books can contain some useful tactics to use in frustrating situations.
Remember, you can't eliminate anger—and it wouldn't be a good idea if you could. In spite of all your efforts, things will happen that will cause you anger; and sometimes it will be justifiable anger. Life will be filled with frustration, pain, loss, and the unpredictable actions of others. You can't change that; but you can change the way you let such events affect you and how you respond to the events. Find out more about the Real Solution Assertiveness Workbook.
Additional Readings
Relationship Information (PDF)
Pfeiffer, R. Creating Real Relationships: Overcoming the Power of Difference and Shame ISBN: 1893505138 212 pp. (Hardcover only) Growth Publishing NY. Highly acclaimed book dealing with underlying issues of self-esteem (shame). Offers skills and concepts to resolve conflicts and to overcome anger problems. It is most effective for those who are fully aware of their need to find help for their relationship problems.
Pfeiffer, R. Real Solution Anger Management Workbook ISBN: 1893505189 129 pp. Growth Publishing NY. Highly acclaimed book dealing with underlying issues of self-esteem (shame). Offers skills and concepts to overcome and manage anger problems. It is most effective for those who are fully aware of their need to find help for their anger problems. Goals for participants are to reduce levels of anger, shame, guilt, and isolation, to learn effective coping skills leading to increase self-esteem.
Creating Real Relationship - (Bestseller)
Anger Management in Relationships DVD
Relationship Information (PDF) Free
Relationship Conflict Evaluation Free