Creating Real Relationships: Overcoming the Power of Difference & Shame


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Creating Real Relationships: Overcoming the Power of Difference & Shame
ISBN: 1893505138, Hardcover 6″x9″, 212 pages.



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“Creating Real Relationships is a remarkable book – the most definitive I have ever read on issues of expressing the real self in relationships…great relationship advice” -John Gary, PhD


“Richard Pfeiffer has developed a quality program for overcoming shame and difference in relationships”                                                                          – Barbara Burch, M.D. – Chicago, IL.


If you are or hope to be in an intimate relationship you will want to give this book to yourself and your partner. Creating Real Relationships is an inspiring guide that offers relationship advice and encouragement for those seeking more meaning and healthy closeness in their relationship. A real relationship provides its partners with the opportunity for personal growth, development of the real self, and emotional and spiritual healing. The author weaves professional knowledge with personal experience to show the reader how to overcome the power of difference and shame, which may threaten the level of relationship satisfaction. This essential book offers clear explanations, practical skills, insightful background, and a map for the healing journey possible in real relationships.

One of the unique features of this work is its focus on the dynamics of difference and shame underlying what goes wrong–or what can go very right-with relationships. The dynamics of difference and shame have the power to set up the development of a false self. The false self defensively refuses to assert the real self. Overcoming the power of these dynamics is the source of transforming unhealthy wounded relationships and individuals into healthy ones. Creating Real Relationships is recommended to be used along with couples or marriage counseling. The Relationship Advice speaks directly to improvement in the following areas:

  • Assertiveness Skills
  • Overcoming Your Anger
  • Overcoming Your Partner’s Anger
  • Overcoming Difference and Shame
  • Overcoming Your Anxiety
  • Conflict Resolution Skills
  • Direct Communication Skills
  • Listening Skills


RichRich Pfeiffer, M.Div., Ph.D. Director/Founder of Growth Central
Richard Pfeiffer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Psychotherapist, and a nationally Certified Anger Management Provider. His psychological / theological training lay the foundation for his expertise in helping people work through their core conflicts. He is a Certified Pastoral Psychotherapist having graduated from the Blanton-Peale Graduate Institute (NYC).  He is a Fellow of the American Association of Pastoral Counselors (AAPC), and a Diplomate of the National Anger Management Association (NAMA).  An innovator in the development of Issue Focused Individual Psychotherapy and Emotion Focused Couple Therapy, Pfeiffer has provided psychotherapeutic services to individuals and couples for over twenty years. He is the author of seven Real Solution Workbooks and the bestselling Creating Real Relationships. Richard Pfeiffer can be reached at